I Lie Because I Care

I got an interesting email from someone who has followed this blog for a while. He was offended because, by my definition, he is a miserable liar who will burn in hell some day for cheating on his girlfriend. His defense-if you can call it that-is that she doesn't tell him everything that she does, and he knows that if he told her this, it would only hurt her feelings. My suggestion to him was that perhaps he should reexamine his desire for a monogamous relationship, because if he is kissing someone else(not sex he told me) or doing anything else with another person that he wouldn't want his girlfriend to know about then he is either A) not as committed to this relationship as he says he is or B) a lying cheating weasel without the moral fiber God gave a turnip. I am leaning towards B but please don't tell him I said so. I have believed that cheating is on the upswing for a long time. I know three people who have never cheated on someone they were with. Three. Everyone else I know seems to think that it isn't cheating if you don't do certain things, or if you only do them at certain times. Riiiight. I am single, and plan on being that way for just about the next forty years, but if I were in what I thought was a monogamous relationship,only to discover that he had a different definition of monogamous, some one's head would roll. I am not kidding. There is a reason that people have guns and shovels, and I suppose my neck is just red enough to want to do something about being cheated on. Which isn't to say that it doesn't happen. I have ended a long relationship with someone because I did not realize that he had an attraction to what I believe is another man. At least I think it's a man until a Doctor tells me otherwise. But that's a blog for another day. Back to the subject of lying and cheating. Don't do it, okay? If the temptation to be with someone other than the person you have committed yourself to is that strong, be a man-or woman- sack up and tell the person you are involved with what is going on. Maybe you are so wonderful that your partner will stick around while you sort your feelings out. True love conquers all, right? Or, maybe, you will save someone from having to be tested for HIV and other gifts that keep on giving. Either way, you'll thank me later.