who is working for whom?

Do you have an attorney or a doctor that you see regularly? Do they do it for free, or are you paying them? If you are in fact the one who is paying the freight- so to speak-why is it that the attorney or the doctor has assumed the "boss" role in your relationship? I just received a chiding letter from someone who is in my employ. I read the letter twice to make sure that I hadn't misinterpreted what was being said. Nope.I was just fussed at by my employee! Holy crap, can you imagine doing that if you worked for,say, the world's largest retailer? Can you say d-day? How about instant termination for insubordination? That's what I thought, too. So now I walk the delicate balance between needing this employee to do the job for which I pay them and not screw it up. That is the big thing. Don't screw it up because you are incompetent, and don't screw it up because you dislike me now. I feel like I'm filling an end cap with one case of product. It can't be done and pretty soon a manager is going to come ask me why I can't make the impossible possible by crapping out more product that isn't here.What ever happened to common courtesy? Did it go out with a bang, or more likely,I'm afraid, did it go with some whimpering, quiet little death? It doesn't seem that difficult to say please and thank you. It doesn't seem that hard to ask for clarification if you don't understand what is being asked of you. "Excuse me" would go a long way in helping, as would the granddaddy of them all: a heartfelt "I'm sorry" when you've screwed it up. Forgive my venting, sometimes it's blog or explode. But think about your manners, seriously. When I'm interacting with someone, I try to always act as if my Mother were watching. Try it yourself. You'll thank me later.