Marriage and Other Disposables

Why does it take two people to get married and only one to end it? I have recently been divorced, and it was amazing how quickly these things can be disposed of. The divorce was not my idea. I rather think it was the idea of the woman(?) that my husband took up with while he was at work. I noticed that he was coming home awfully late from a job that ended at 2:30 and lo and behold, he was cheating! I will save you the blow by blow details, but I will say that it took longer to attend to counselling classes before we were married than it took to be finished with a marriage. When did we turn in to such a disposable society? And more importantly, why does it only take one person to get a divorce? I did not think the time would come that I would be glad to be finished with him, but looking back now, I am glad I am not married to him anymore. I do not miss phone calls at two in the morning because his brother was arrested for driving drunk. I do not miss listening to his father tell me about all the women that his father had slept with in his marriage. (The father of the father, that is) I do not miss the arguments about extended family. He has a cousin that works her husband like a slave. He is a professional, yet she insisted that he also deliver papers for the extra money. The in-laws used to chew on that like a juicy bone. I don't miss the drug using cousin, or the stories that his drug using wife told at Christmas. But now that I've taken a few cheap shots, (with that family, it's all they could afford) I will state again. I think that marriage should be very hard to get out of. I think that in some cases, it should be impossible to get out of, unless both parties agree. It might strengthen families, i might even make marriage a sacred thing again. At the least it would make it less disposable than a Kleenex. Call your elected officials, tell them you agree. maybe they can stop the hearings about which professional athlete is using steroids and actually do some real work for us. You'll thank me later.